What does a discipled child look like?
After writing about “Developing a Biblical World View in Children” for a magazine I have not been able to get this question out of my head. If our job as children’s pastors is to do what Matthew 28:19 tells use to do, (and I believe it is) “Therefore go and make disciples of all nations”, then what does a discipled child look like?
Jim Wideman
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How can we tell where we are hitting the mark if we have not defined and determined what a discipled child is in the first place? Mr. Webster says that a disciple is a follower. Alan Root in his book “ Disciplification! ” defines disciplification in three ways
• The travels of a disciple.
• The practiced habit of “following”
• A made up word which simply means the life-changes made to become more and more like Jesus each day.
Character & Habits
So if our job is to make followers who through life changes and good choices cause them to be more like Jesus, then what actions, habits and character traits should a twelve year old Christ follower possess?
For years I think we’ve been guilty of using faithfulness as the major evaluation if a child has been discipled. If a child was faithful to attend plus participate in loads of other children’s ministry activities and programming then we would send them into the youth ministry and feel like we succeeded. In a few years we would look them up in the youth group and find they were not there and wonder what did the youth pastor do to make this child loose interest?
I have said for years that those of us that teach kids should think of ourselves as foundation specialists. But anyone who has ever built any kind of building knows that the type foundation you build has everything to do with the type of building you can build. Building Together? In construction you start with the building plans and then determine what kind of foundation does it need for what you are building. In children’s ministry I think many of us have been guilty of designing the foundation then saying to the youth ministry now go fit your building on the foundation we have built, but never one time sitting down and working together toward the end result. Sometimes the problem has started long before we promote them into the youth ministry even from one department or ministry to another within the total children’s ministry.
Because we are sometimes very territorial we haven’t worked as a true team and prepared them for the the next age group. Instead of looking ahead we have focused on the present which centres on and around our own ministry responsibilities. When we help other departments and ministries around us be successful then we’ll be successful. We are all on the same team working toward the same goal. You can’t be part of the church’s mission without every ministry that makes up the church working on the mission statement and only then breaking it down for their age groups.
With the end in mind
Stephen Covey in his book “7 Habits Of Effective People” said it this way, “Habit number 1 is to start with the end in mind.”
Why don’t we as staff and ministers sit down together with our next generation ministries and our lead pastors and just plan backwards.
What do we want a young adult to know as a part of the congregation then let’s back up and look at the college ministry and see what we need to teach there. For this to work we have to then look at the Senior High Ministry then to the Middle School Ministry then to the elementary ministries.
Then working backwards we evaluate our preschool and nursery ministries to see what should be learned.
Did you notice I didn’t use the word taught? I believe just because teaching takes place doesn’t mean learning accrues.)
We must get in the habit of defining and evaluating what we do and the results those actions are yielding if we are going to be successful at discipling children. This is just the first step in making this process a way of life at your church. Years ago I set down with my youth pastor and I asked him what do you want the sixth graders I promote into your youth ministry to know and be? That was a question that took some time to develop. I also think that this list could and would be different from church to church.
The bottom line is this, make a list. If you aim at nothing. you’ll hit it every time. Make it a matter of prayer and work on your list as a team. It’s more than getting children “saved”. It’s time we all move past just getting children saved and help them to live saved. Disciplification is all about how each day gets lived by someone who is saved. Luke 2:49-52 tells us about Jesus at twelve. It says that he had a desire to be about His Father’s business. It also says he was obedient to His parents. It’s also says he continued to grow in wisdom. (That’s understanding and knowledge of the Word.) I believe this with all my heart the voice of wisdom and the voice of the Word is always the same. He also grew physically as well as grew in His relationship with God and with others. I believe this should also take place with those we seek to disciple. No matter what you place on your list the children you lead won’t become those things if you don’t do four important things:
Number 1
We must become all of those things.
My mom used to say, “What’s good for the goose is good for the gander!” What we expect others to do we must become these things first. I never want to forget that when I point to others there are three fingers pointing back to me!
Number 2
Place others who will also serve as models before those you lead.
A disciple cannot be made without someone who is willing to be an example. Jesus said something powerful in John 14:9 “Anyone who has seen me has seen the Father.” Think about that, it’s almost mind boggling. Jesus modelled the Father so others would know God. Could children understand what God is like from us? They should!
Children must have someone who is willing to say, ”Come follow me as I follow the Lord” Gone must be the day of saying ‘do as I say not as I do’. We must be willing to set an example and model to both kids and adults.
Number 3
Give those you lead what the Bible says about each of the things you want them to do to be a true follower of Christ Jesus.
Number 4
Give them opportunities to do these things.
Learning is more than sitting and listening it’s all about doing. I never apologise for giving people an opportunity to serve and put what they are learning into action. My dear friend Alan Root goes on to say in “Disciplification!” that Jesus doesn’t expect us to live the Christian life. Alan writes “It’s so simple we have a hard time getting it. You see the Christian life is lived by dying. Dying to having to have everything your own way that is.” To be a follower means you are not leading you are be obedient.
That means we obey Him. How can we obey Jesus? it’s simple we must know His word and do what it says. That’s the art of being a disciple. I believe our kids can be saved and live saved and have a desire to be about their Father’s business more so than desiring the things of the world. We know we have been successful at making a disciple when kids and leaders drop their weapons and surrender to Jesus’ control. To me the proof of the discipleship process is in the living. It’s not what you know or what you feel, or what you think, it’s knowing Christ, walking by faith, thinking the Word and doing exactly what it says. That’s the mark of a discipled child !